by Kevin Lapp
on Friday, May 1st, 2015 at 2:19pm.
It started out as most relationships do. There was passion in the words, hope in the air, and a wonder in the heart of where it might eventually lead.
Things quickly turned sour. You found it increasingly harder to agree on even the smallest decisions. Communication went downhill until most calls began going to voicemail and messages went days unanswered. Slowly but surely, the doubts crept in; what if they dont care about me as much as they say they do?
It happens to us all. Not every relationship we begin will work out. If those signs seem familiar to you, then it might be time to end it. It might be time to break things off with your previous realtor, and see how a new realtor can help you instead.
The question is: how to avoid a messy divorce with your current real estate agent?
Leave your feelings at the door
Your relationship with your real estate agent was purely professional, and the meeting where you end it should be too.
Explain your reasons in a courteous but firm manner, and be sure to stand your ground if they try to change your mind.
Any good real estate agent should understand that it is they who work for you and should respect your decision. Respect their time too by not wasting it; if youre unhappy, get out as soon as you can.
Write a break up note
Like any commencement or ending of a business contract, only a fool in love would neglect to get things down and signed in writing.
You dont have to pour your heart out about why you want to end the relationship; be upfront about what you want to happen, but you dont need to go into too much detail about why, and can just explain that things arent working out as you had expected.
Its like the business version of its not you, its me.
Having this down in writing, signed and dated, will help you if any future disputes concerning unpaid commission occur. It will also help your new relationship with your new realtor go as smoothly as possible.
Beware the prenuptial
Although stating your desire to end the relationship in writing is highly recommended, it doesnt necessarily free you from any contracts you may have signed when you and your real estate agent first got together.
Not signing the proper documentation to cancel the relationship may lead to issues further down the line, with the realtor being entitled to commission by being what is known as the procuring cause. This may happen if you purchase a house first shown to you by your old agent, even if your new realtor is the one who helps you to purchase the house.
Nobody likes to reveal too much about their history to their new partner, but its wise to be open and tell your new realtor exactly what your previous agent did, and how far you went with them.
Remain on speaking terms
Its a fact of life that not every relationship will work out but that doesnt mean we have to burn bridges every time. Ending a contract with your realtor should be done professionally and with respect. Your new realtor will understand this, and will love working for people who display such traits. Why not start a relationship with one today?